The conversation no one wants to have

So some of you will be aware that before Christmas I finally got the heart operation I have been waiting for and had my huge hole repaired.

Night before my operation

The night before my operation I had a conversation with my husband that no one wants to have but really we all should.  We spoke about that if things should go wrong in the operation what my dying and last wishes would be.  I told him what I would like for my funeral and that I would like to be cremated with my ashes interred with our daughter in her grave.

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Spring flowers about to bloom at Graveside

We then spoke about what I would like for him and our daughter in terms of the future if I wasn’t to be in it anymore.

Very emotional

It was a huge and emotional conversation but one I realised that we all should really have today with our partners or close family as you really don’t know what tomorrow will bring, without meaning to depress you, we could be run over in the street tomorrow.

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All I ever wanted my happy family missing one or two children

A Will?

Do you have your will sorted too?  We wrote ours back before Violet died so we are going to double-check our wishes are still current too.

So my advice to you all is if you haven’t written a will or told a close loved one your last wishes and how you would like your funeral to be, should something happen, then please do this.

Think about the ones you love

Make this conversation your priority if not for your benefit but for that of your loved ones.  It is something that needs to happen.  If unfortunately the worst should suddenly happen then it will be tough enough on your loved ones without them having to second guess whether you want your organs donated or flowers at your funeral.

Thanks for reading and stay safe.

Big love

Sarah

Always Violet Skies

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